We already know from positive psychology research that relationships are one of the important ingredients to living a more happy, flourishing and prosperous life. And in a recent article by Megan Willet posted on Business Insider Australia titled ‘Here’s The Best Advice From A Single Guy Who Spent A Year Interviewing Couples’ provides further real life validation on the importance of trust and intention when it comes to long-term loving relationships.
Now, while this is focusing on ‘loving’ relationships, I’d also highlight here that the glue that helps bond any relationship has in its ingredients, intention and trust.
Here’s what Willet’s article highlights about intention and trust (ranking in the top 4 elements of the key to a long-term loving relationship):
Trust: Happy couples trust each other… and they have earned each others’ trust. They don’t worry about the other person trying to undermine them or sabotage them, because they’ve proven over and over again that they are each other’s biggest advocate. That trust is built through actions, not words. It’s day after day after day of fidelity, service, emotional security, reliability.
Intentionality: This is the icing on the cake. There’s a difference between the couple who drives through the rainstorm and the couple who pulls their car to the side of the road to make out in the rain. (Yes, that’s a true story.) There’s a difference between the couple who kisses for 10 seconds or longer when they say goodbye to each other rather than just giving each other a peck… or nothing at all. There’s a difference between the couples who encourage each other to pursue their personal goals at the expense of their own discomfort or inconvenience… even if it means their partner has to stage kiss another woman.
And the piece that strikes a big positive note with me was this…
The couples who try on a daily basis to experience some sort of meaningful connection, or create a fun memory are the couples who shattered my perception of what was possible in a loving relationship.
A summary note:
In all of the relationships you have in your various life roles, your intention forms the basis of the level of trust you will generate… self-trust, trust in others and others trusting in you. If you want to improve your success with any relationships you have in your life, whether personal or business, start with getting clear about your intention for the other person – what do you want for them… and not what you want from them.