#16. I am someone people can depend on! This week I will intentionally help someone who really needs help.
Each week I’m reporting here on my personal experience in implementing my 52 Intentional Affirmations. These are designed to help us be more intentionally mindful of the impact our intentions have on living a happy, flourishing and prosperous life. (Click Here to start work on your own 52 Intentional Affirmations).
To be someone who others can depend on, requires you to be trustworthy – worthy of someone’s trust.
When I placed this week’s affirmation on my iphone home screen as my intentional default to be reminded constantly of the affirmation, I was quickly reminded of my friend and author of the Truth About Trust, Vanessa Hall’s wonderful description that ‘Trust is fragile’.
And this prompted me to ask the question, ‘how am I practicing trust, dependability, and what am I intentionally doing to demonstrate my trustworthiness and dependability?’
What I know is this… while in my work-life there are ‘intentional defaults’ to keep me reminded of living up to my promises, there have been times in my family-life where I know a few ‘intentional defaults’ would have allowed me to live up to my promises more than I have.
You see, at work, we’ve built ‘intentional defaults’ that offer our clients and on-line community the opportunity to connect with us through live-to-air open mentoring as well as through this blog to join in on the Intentionomics conversation, and also through our social media presence on LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter.
We take particular pride in personally answering every email and responding to all comments made on or off-line and we take particular care to always try to intentionally promise only that which we believe we can deliver.
So reflecting on dependability at work, I’m confident we’re doing ok.
What I found interesting this week was how work has intentional defaults, systems and processes in place that cause us to automatically pattern interrupt us from potentially operating on an habitual basis, and focus on living up to our promise of being dependable and trustworthy.
When I look at our personal life however, I didn’t find any intentional defaults for the way I ‘live up to’ my intention of being dependable and trustworthy.
However, once again, the process of placing the affirmation on my iphone provided me with the constant reminder to proactively ask how I can help.
So each day this week in my personal life, I’ve chosen to ask family and friends “How can I help?” more often (not always just using those words), but not to the point of being distractingly annoying. And while often the response has been something like “It’s all good” and my help wasn’t needed, I really felt an increased sense of pride in knowing my intention is genuine (albeit through the reminder of the affirmation), and on the occasions when the response was “Sure could you… “ and I was able to help, I know that there were some valuable deposits added to the ‘trust bank’ as a result.