Your conscious mind is finite in its capacity and what that means is the more ‘noise’ that is taking up your conscious thought and focus, the more disengaged you may become from that which will help you live a more happy, flourishing and prosperous personal and work life.
Noise At Work:
At work for example, your conscious mind may be full of the noise of increasing competition that’s making it more and more difficult to differentiate on anything other than price; or maybe the noise is from the global economic crisis; or internal politics; or legislation; or compliance; or inter/intra team issues; or fear of job security; or promises by the executive management that are just platitudes and not truth that is lived through intentional action.
Or maybe the noise you experience at work is from top of mind issues you face in your personal life.
Noise At Home
And in your personal life at home, your conscious mind maybe taken up with all the work noise mentioned above; or maybe its cash flow; or mortgage; or relationship issues; or illness; or a sense of existence rather than living a happy, flourishing and prosperous life.
The problem is, because the conscious mind is finite, when the ‘noise’ takes up that space, your subconscious mind is what drives your choices, behaviours and results. this is what causes people to feel a bit ‘out of control’ and that life is just passing them by.
Is Time Flying?
When was the last time you personally said, or heard someone else say, “I can’t believe how fast this year is flying by”?
While your subconscious capacity is amazing and it allows you to operate ‘in habit’ or on autopilot, when it comes to relationships, none of us can afford to be communicating ‘in habit’. You can’t afford to respond in habit, ask questions in habit, listen in habit or relate in habit.
In Vanessa Hall’s book The Truth About Trust, Vanessa says “Trust is fragile”. We don’t get trust, we earn it and trust is not created subconsciously or in habit. Trust is built on a platform of conscious intention.
The good news is that to get ‘out of habit’ and into consciously focusing on what really matters – the relationships we have both at work and in our personal lives, we just need to create a ‘pattern interrupt’ and get focused consciously back on our intentions.
Pattern Interrupt Your Noise
To stop and simply ask “What is my intention here?” and “What is my intention for this person I am with right now in this moment?” will provide you with the necessary ‘pattern interrupt’ to enable you to consciously get back into the moment and focus on your intention.
You can’t leave this to chance however. Because, when you leave things to chance, chances are you’ll just leave it.
That’s why the Intentionomics Blueprint of 9 Inescapable Truths for a Prosperous Life recommends through inescapable truth #3 to define your intention for each life role.
By proactively defining your intention for each life role, you will be in a much stronger position to proactively switch from being ‘in habit’ when you are about to communicate with someone – whether by email, phone, or face to face. To be able to stop for a moment before you write and send the email, before you pick up to answer the phone or make the phone call, or before you’re about to meet with or be met by someone else… STOP and consciously create space in your conscious mind, remove the ‘noise’ by asking yourself… “What’s my intention for this person?”
This is not theory, this is choice! It’s intentional choice and it’s about character.
Again… Trust is fragile. You can’t afford not to be intentionally clear on your intention for others – because if you’re just communicating with them while in habit, people will get your truth.
Your intentions, your actions and your results will over time either promote you or expose you.
Relationships are central to you living a happy, flourishing and prosperous life – Get out of habit and into proactive conscious intention and not only will you earn and build trust with others, you will earn and build trust with yourself.