#2. “I have so much to smile about. This week I will remember to smile a little more.”
Each week I’m reporting here on my personal experience in implementing my 52 Intentional Affirmations. These are designed to help us be more intentionally mindful of the impact our intentions have on living a happy, flourishing and prosperous life. (Click Here to start work on your own 52 Intentional Affirmations).
How wonderful to be intentionally mindful of the many blessings I have to be grateful for. This affirmation couldn’t have been at top of mind at a more appropriate time this week as Lizzie and I had to attend a couple of funerals. One of a friend and another in support of a friend whose father passed away.
Having the affirmation as the Lock Screen Wallpaper on my iPhone really did help keep me intentionally reminded of the many blessings that are in my life and that I really do have a lot to smile about.
I’m not sure about you, but it is so easy for me to take for granted how healthy I am – I’ve been blessed with a really healthy disposition. In 18 years of running my professional conference speaking and corporate education business, I have not had one day of where I have been, as we say in Australia ‘sick’.
It’s also so easy for me to take for granted the loving relationships, family and friends as well as the incredible corporate relationships I’ve developed over the years.
This is not to say that life hasn’t presented me with challenges, nor is it to say that I haven’t felt sadness, anxiety, fear, apprehension, anger, and a range of other emotions because of the situations I have found myself in.
This week I was caught in a traffic jam in the Sydney Airport Tunnel – phone reception was terrible and I had arranged a telephone conference with a colleague which I was now not able to make. I looked around at some of the other drivers in the cars next to and behind me through my rear view mirror… and I noticed the lady in the car directly behind me had a big smile on her face, which allowed me again to take reactive control, and smile along with her. I wasn’t any less satisfied about being caught in traffic and missing my phone appointment, but remembering to smile allowed me to chillout – I wasn’t going to change anything by sitting there being frustrated.
These intentional affirmations work!
And I’ve been thinking about a key word in a phrase I’ve been saying here. The phrase is ‘take for granted’. When we ‘take something for granted’ first of all it’s saying we’re ‘taking’ it… which really does sound selfish doesn’t it! So we selfishly take for granted our health, or our relationships, or our job, or our whatever. But stay with me for a moment here. The word ‘granted’ is worth considering here as well.
When something is ‘granted’ it is ‘bestowed’ or given as a ‘gift’.
So to ‘take’ something for ‘granted’ is really a selfish act, and that’s been my big lesson this week while focusing on Intentional Affirmation #2: I have so much to smile about.
My second big lesson this week that I’ve relearned is that smiling isn’t just about being happy, and it’s not just about faking happiness when stuck in a tunnel. It’s a physical and emotional trigger that helps me to stop… and to be grateful, and to not ‘take’ things for ‘granted’.
I may again slip into old habits of ingratitude at times, however, at least for this week, the affirmation has helped me to be more proactive most of the time in being grateful… and it’s been fun!
My gratitude journal has had many little additions to it this week.
The affirmation I’m working on next is #3 – I look for opportunities to thank people. This week I will thank someone who rarely gets thanked