goldfish jumping out of the waterHow intentional are you in your thinking? You might be amazed at how often our thinking can be unintentional… and depending on which it is for you, the impact on your wellbeing and success will be significant.

I’ve just finished my 2nd year Master of Science in Applied Positive Psychology and start my final dissertation year in September. What a journey it’s been so far. The science of intentional trust touches every aspect of our work and personal lives because relationships matter, and in one way or another, everything we do will have an impact on others… colleagues, managers, shareholders, clients, suppliers, family, friends, and of course, ourselves.

In this year’s final lecture we were provided a link to a graduation speech by David Foster Wallace, now famously known as the “This Is Water” commencement speech. I rate this presentation as probably the best I’ve heard for as long as I can remember, and I’ve embedded the youtube version for you at the end of this post.

It only goes for 20 minutes, but it took me almost an hour to listen because I had to keep stopping the audio to take notes.

Here are just a few of the mind-shifting notes I’d like to share with you here:

“It isn’t really about the capacity to think, but rather about the choice of what to think about.”

“Blind certainty is a close-mindedness that amount to an imprisonment so total that the prisoner doesn’t even know he’s locked up.”

“How well are you adjusting your default setting of self-centredness? This is the true meaning of ‘well-adjusted’.”

“Learning how to think really means learning how to exercise some control over how and what you think. It means being conscious and aware enough to choose what you pay attention to and to choose how you construct meaning from experience.”

“You get to decide what has meaning.”

“The capital-T Truth is about life before death.”

I share these with you on my post today because there is so much noise that can slip into our lives… so many distractions where we unintentionally fall back into a default mode of self-centredness and live our lives habitually thinking only about me, me, me… and what we know from the science is that there’s more meaning and a more value to be gained in our on-going physical and psychological wellbeing when we focus our attention beyond just ourselves and on to our potential that is within each of us to make life better for those around us.

What will you do today to intentionally make life better for those around you? Relationships matter. Intention matters.

Here’s the youtube audio, I encourage you to listen and guarantee you’ll gain from the experience.