I recently received an email from executive leader and business coach William Lazarus who attended one of my presentations. He referred me to his newly created website and blog where he had posted the following:
“When the proverbial hit the fan for me, I became totally lost. After many months of sadness, fear, confusion, and paralysis, I was fortunate to hear a speaker who inspired me to use his process of self-evaluation and planning, which was fundamentally based on values and intentions. The process took effort, over a number of months – lots of reflection and then re-work. But in the end, I produced something which for me affirms what my life is meant to embody in the future. It is very powerful as it is my own feelings in my own words, and it travels with me most places I go.”
I’m proud of course to say that the ‘speaker’ Bill referred to was me… but I’m not posting here to bang on my own drum. Rather, the point of me sharing this is what I see as the key message within Bill’s blog post. And the key message was where he writes “The process took effort, over a number of months – lots of reflection and then re-work.”
Earlier this year, I was interviewed on Radio 2UE here in Sydney by Ian ‘Dicko’ Dickson and Sarah Morice, I outlined my Intentionomics Trust Model which helps people not only answer all of the important what, when, where, how, why and who questions required to bring more trust into your life (self-trust, trust in others, and others trusting in you), and even more importantly, as a by-product, the model helps people bring more meaning into their lives.
Dicko made the comment that it all sounded like a bit of ‘hard work’… and my answer to him was “Yes, of course it’s hard work… and well worth the effort.”
This is what Bill (and so many other clients I have worked with) has validated… The Intentionomics Trust Model helps people practically apply the following principle into their lives: People Get Your Truth… over time, your intentions, promises, actions and results will either promote you or expose you.
We know from a growing body of research that meaning in life has strong correlation with higher levels of subjective wellbeing and life satisfaction. It just makes sense if science supports the importance of us having meaning in our life to our physical and psychological wellbeing, to put in a bit of effort to discover (or clarify) what meaning we do have in our life just makes sense.
Work on ‘little m meaning’ not ‘BIG M Meaning’
However, rather than trying to determine what I refer to as ‘BIG M meaning in life’ (which is often only ever discovered by very few as a ‘calling’ or ‘life passion’ and may take years of reflection, learning, and in the end, may simply result in a void of not discovering BIG M meaning), work on the ‘little m meaning in life’ – which is the meaning we can more readily derive from our everyday interactions and intentions with the people we impact through our various life roles. This is the power and practicality of the Intentionomics Trust Model.
If you’d like to learn more, click this link to watch a 5 minute overview of the model.